Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Long winded...

Today I had a friend say " I read you blog" and I thought....oh man that means she had some TIME on her hands...

Yes friends, I ,now I am long winded. The thing is, I just can't help my self. I have so many words stuck up in this head...so many things I need to get out. If you have talked to me recently you would know that even with a blog outlet I can still talk your ear off. I mean, Maybe I have a problem.

But, I just can't help my self, I have a lot to say. Whether it has any really value I can't really decide but I know its healthy for me to get it out..so I blog.

I let the thoughts go and go and go and go. If you are lucky enough to be reading this then you may already realize that I am talking nonsense at this point AND maybe I am being long winded just to be silly and bug you....just maybe....

just about time to get that _____ project done...nope, never mind

Today, I woke up and thought " finally, I have things in just enough control to start moving forward!" Well, its almost four, I have worked about half the time I planned on, the house is trashed and soccer starts next week....

Don't get me wrong, I ADORE soccer. I love the practices and hanging out with fabulous friends. I LOVE cheering on my kids. I am really excited to be the kids fitness gal this year and warm up the girls with 20 minutes of work out..

and living with my family has been so much better then I even expected so I can't compalin about cleaning up after 10 people..

BUT, just about the time I THINK I can work on that pile of cook books in my room, or put in tons of hours in at work....well I just have to keep figuring out how to squeeze more in my day because right now I am remembering once again that there will just never be enough hours in the day to do what I NEED to do and what I WANT to do...lol

AND if I ever think there are, then some how I will get to add more to my schedule with out even asking... just how it works =)

Monday, January 28, 2013

learning to be thankful...learning to love

Yesterday, as I was in church I had a " moment". No big light bulbs, but maybe 1 or 2 ( literally) tears. I found my self reflecting on specific moments that the Lord has reached down into my little life just to say " I love you". I can't say that I am always good at showing the love back. I struggle with pride and consistentcey in my scripture reading, praying, controlled thoughts, you name it I can't seem to keep it going on an every day basis.   I have the desire to make promises that I can never keep and I fall into my natural man state over and over and over...If the roles were reversed, I would be frustrated and disappointed at the level of potential being met by the earthly version of me.

So as I pondered a couple of beautiful and undeniable ways the Lord had shown his love for me I felt unworthy and grateful for his love that never seems deplete and has patience beyond my understanding. I want to share two of them with you, if any one is even reading.  I want it to stand as a testimony that I DO KNOW the Lord loves me. Me, Brigette Heller, little nobody in a big, big world, he cares about me enough to make sure I know it and can not deny it.

1- About five years ago I was called to be the organist for our congregation ( ward). I played the music and felt humiliated by my lack of timing each week for almost a year. Each time I thought I was improving and thought I should pat myself on the back...well lets just say these weeks of confidence were usually the most disastrous  I learned to have total humility in my calling and lean on the lord for every note. It was on one of these most disastrous and embarrassing weeks that we had a ward conference. This meant there were leaders from our church there and lots of extra people. Yay for me, I killed the song again. During the Sacrament I prayed with all my heart that I would come to understand the sacrament. I knew I was not using the power of the sacrament in my life. I knew I needed the Lord more fully in my life, but I could clearly see I didn't understand how to use this precious tool given to me by the Lord. There for I was limited in my ability to reach the Lord the way I knew I needed too. After the water and bread were passed and every one returned to their seats the Stake President stood up, pushed his talk notes to the side and said " I feel a strong impression that I need to talk to you about the Sacrament today." I was shocked.  I didn't learn anything about the Sacrament, I was too thrown off but the way the Lord had just reached down into my life to give me the very exact thing I had begged for. I felt so loved and knew I was important to my Heavenly Father.  I will never forget sitting on that stand and understanding that the Lord hears my prayers completely and knows the desires of my heart and he loves me enough to give me those things I need to return to him.

2- We moved here almost to years ago. Shortly after, our oldest child was baptized. What would have been a huge celebration and had a huge crowd to attend this event, was a small and simple celebration with only family. We of course were so happy about her choice to be baptized that the crowd wasn't THAT important, but it was hard to not have her many friends to share her special day with. The 1st councilor in our bishopbrick came to conduct to meeting. We didn't even know him or his name at the time. I played the piano because we knew nobody else to. In all the excitement of the day I left my primary book at the church. This was not just a book, it was one Mike had given to me when I got my first calling as a married couple to play in primary. It had a note from him and scribbles from Livy when she was a baby. It was beat up and worn down and I adored it. I went back to the church many times looking for it but with no success. It was lost.

 The day we moved My friends son was baptized. She asked me to play the piano for them. It was crazy. I had every thing from dealing with girl issues, to finding chocolate all over my dress, no shoes, no makeup, almost running out of gas a dog who was freaking out thinking we had moved and left her...not to mention the whole moving factor and some issues we were handling in our extended family. All this lead to a very, very, very stressful week/day. Yet as I played, I felt the sweet spirit that only a baptisim can bring fill my soul.THEN,  in walked the 1st councilor who had conducted Livys baptism!  As I played I reflected on the many blessing the Lord had given us while we attended this ward. I thought of the many friends we had been blessed with.  The 1st councilor mentioned as he conducted how thankful he was to have us in the ward and how sad it was we were leaving- he even got a tiny bit emotional. I felt so very loved to end our time in that place the same was we started it. The spirit was so very strong! In my selfish way of thinking I thought, " the only thing that would make this more perfect would be to find my song book". I knew it was selfish, but I thought it. I looked up and noticed a book on top of the piano, I pulled it down and.....yes.....it was my book. How my book made it to that exact spot two years later- on the very last day I would ever be in the building-is only something the Lord could answer.  But, I knew that even in a selfish moment, the Lord not only knows me, but loves me very very much. Enough to make events work out to show me in a tangible way I could see with my eyes and hold with my hands. He blessed me with this knowledge at a time that I desperately needed it! I needed it so badly that day, it was was gave me the strength to go home and keep my head up high and do the things my children needed of me in that time.

So, yesterday I thought of these moments and I could feel the love of the Lord again in my heart. I felt so ungrateful  I felt like a child feels when they know their parents are disappointed,  not mad, disappointed  I know the Lord loves me and how am I showing that love in return?? If you are reading this, then you already know this is one way I show my love to the Lord. I tell people. When you love some one and they love you back, that not a well kept secret, or something you just forget to mention. You talk about, often, it effects everything you do because you are considering the person you love in your life and how your actions effect them. I have lived a life full of Love from the Lord, I want to give back. I know it will never be enough, but I have got to give him what I have, and thankfully He knows me so well that he will know when I have given that too.

Saturday, January 26, 2013

too many thoughts to settle on one..

We have moved! and as my sweet friend put it " its the best case scenario" . every thing fits, we all have our space, the house is done ( except for the girls room), clean and we are not sick any more! WHEW!
I have been trying the last couple day to figure out

A. WHEN I would have even a moment to start blogging again
B. WHAT on earth to blog about

So much has happened the last couple of weeks. I have so many stories I could share but I can't settle on even one so here are some highlights;

- Joey LOVED the moving truck. Picking it up, lowering the ramp, the whole reason for moving in his mind was so that we could have the moving truck experience. he told devers on day ' we live here at grandmas now....yeah....cause....we got a moving truck, so now we live here" I will have to post video when I figure out how to get it from my phone to here...

- I lost some weight with all the stress of everything happening and kick started our "no sugar" diet. Mike and I have committed to taking refined sugar out of our diet....he is doing awesome, I may have cheated....once....almost every day....BUT I stopped the daily peanut butter M&M habit, so its progress.

- Soccer starts soon!!! Mike has his team list for joey and livy lou, and he is thinking about coaching jacks base ball team too...sport season starts in two weeks! whoo hoo!! =)

- I became a master groomer of dogs..three dogs in three hours...it was something I don't ever feel the need to repeat..

- I picked up the guitar today again for the first time in YEARS, got my hair did, painted my nails hot pink and currently think I am a rock star or something because of it...lol

- Livy and jack attack have shown me over and over what amazing children they are, helpful and grateful for the things they have. not perfect children ( but I never expect that, they are human after all)  but they are starting to mature in ways that I am SO thankful for! Sometimes the qualities a move brings out in people can be surprising, I have found my children always pleasantly surprise me when I think they are going to fall hard during a move.

-different view point, I have been told many times over the year by friends that they enjoy my " different point of view" I have wondered about this a lot. Why is my point of view so different on life that it would cause others to take notice again and again?? I don't feel so different or special

 ( though all my little insecurity based thoughts sure wish I was extra special, then I could stop being insecure...haha...I know its a trick NO ONE is fully comfortable with them self inside and out through and through, and if they are I have found most people don't like being around them, because in the end part of it is an act still the only exception seems to be those that are deeply religious and comfortable with their identity and the divine being (s) they are connected to- point proven that I have work to do....umm...ah...sorry about that little rant! LOL)

ANYWAY,  Maybe its that I have moved around 25 times in my life or that I started being an adult way before most kids think about it...but most likely its that I have been blessed to know SO MANY amazing people and they have shaped my life in ways I never thought about or understood until recently . As I search to find my self once again ( its a process that happens almost constantly) I realized  if my mom hadn't been so set on exploring the west coast in and out through our moves, I wouldn't know so many fabulous people! She always encouraged me to see the best part of everyone and to learn everything I can from each person I met. I think it has shaped my view of everything. So thank you all. I have an interesting view on life because its a bit of every person I know and love- you. =)

Random thoughts and not any thing really specific, but such is my life, random, crazy and always on the go... and blessed beyond measure.

Friday, January 4, 2013

In the middle of a storm....

today I feel like I am in the middle of a storm. Every where I look is chaos. There are things much bigger then me are happening and they are things I have no control over and yet am a part of. The storm is huge, and surrounds me. But I am not the storm. I am not even in the worst part of it. But I am walking into it and taking my children along. Why do I think I can face this storm? how is victory for my family possible? These questions swirl around my head...

And yet, I find myself looking at the storm in a different way. Maybe different then in the past. As I struggle to place my emotions, I look for the sounds of rain and wind on my face. I look for the hope that the storm can bring, new life, fresh air, change.

I pray that the Lord will navigate me and those is the midst of the storm to a safe shelter. I play that we will call come out better, stronger, and changed.

I know I am not speaking details, but they are not mine to share, But if you have the thought or time, pray for those you care about. For perhaps your day is sunny and you have recently weathered a storm of your own, your air might be fresh and things growing again....remember storms move on, others feel their influence. Pray for those who are walking into the storms they didn't ask for...

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

New year resolutions being worked on and the party on new years eve...

Since this is the place I would prefer to share our pictures and stories, I thought I better post our new years eve party. Mike and I felt strongly that we needed to stay home and just be our small family. So we did. We did take an hour and roast marshmallows and watch fire works with our awesome neighbors. But the rest of  day and the night we spent watching a movie, eating pizza and treats and playing LOTS of games... here are the pictures:

This pile is what lets you know its going to be a GREAT night! =) 
who can resist this cute face???
 Joey and dad playing joeys favorite game....why is Joey never dressed??
A little dance off...we even made our own dance videos and then every one had to dance them....Mine was AWESOME! LOL ...and so where um, the uh...kids..um...
 Ya ya in on top of the pile...always.....
 Playing the game uncle Andrew got us...Fibber....if you get caught telling a lie or you falsely accuse some one of telling a lie during the game, you have to "add a nose" joey got the most noses which means he lost..but he was THRILLED to get so many noses...lol
After Tirelessly playing, joey fell asleep during Blokus at 11 p.m


THEN on new years day I had the opportunity to start my new years resolution of living with less....we went through the baby tubs.... and got rid of around 90% of it, here is the proof....
 the pile was TALLER then Joey!!
 Tubs I still have, one maternity, two girl tubs two boy tubs.....just in case...
 YEAH!! free tubs to put things in for storage ( no that doesn't sound hypocritical or any thing), BUT, While I am getting rid of LOTS, I will still have things that won't fit in moms house.... but I want to keep...like my cake supplies...
Still don't know what to do with this...they are my crib sets from Jack/ Joey/ Adrianna (laugh it up with me...don't worry we still do...how Adrianna's things still linger when she was never born nor even existed I don't know)..it was a sacrifice and a tender mercy of the Lord the provided me with these things though...and so to let go is hard, but I also know kids these days aren't using these sets any more... thoughts???

 But speaking of things hard to let go of....this is JC bunny. I fell in love with him when I was about 8 and my mom bought him for me ( which was a BIG deal) I loved him, a lot when I was little...but my kids do not appreciate him, so I am letting him find a new home....But I thought I would take a picture first, just to remember him by...Because there is a part of me that still is wondering if I can leave him in the pile of things to go...
So there you have it, new year and less stuff...today is my room...yuck, I am a hoarder when it comes to clothes, the fear of not being able to replace it makes it hard to let it go....But I will do my best!

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

New years resolutions....

Every year I think and think and think about life and what my new years resolutions should be....and I come up blank. Not that I don't have goals or places I want to be, its the opposite. There are SO MANY possibilities and they are all swimming around my head! So pinning a few down and writing them out seems to hard! But I think I have it...so maybe if I write it here I won't for get it.

1- To find my voice again. Growing up, nothing gave me more joy then music. I sang everywhere and loved it. it was an important part of my self esteem and my sense of who I was. I don't know how it happened ( well I actually do but thats a long story) BUT, along the way I lost my voice. I lost my skills and I lost a part of me. This year I am going to find that again, by taking voice lessons.

2- No sugar/low sugar diet. I know I have a problem eating healthy. I love good food...but I love sugar more. Once I went Gluten Free, I began filling the gluten void with sugar. Mike and I are starting out the new year ( after we move) sugar free completely and then I will move to a low sugar diet.

3- Exercise  the Lord has blessed me with a good body, but lets face it, if you don't take care of it, it gets worn out. I want to run and play with my kids with out needing a nap afterwards. I want to run around my house and clean it in an hour with out sweating so bad I need a shower. Time to exercise.

4- My spiritual goal is to read the entire standard works with a specific goal in mind. I want to look for the patterns and examples of emotional and thoughts. I want to see what I can learn about how we communicate with the Lord and how that power is accessed. I have started this type of reading just a month ago and I am amazed at how our thought patterns effect the way the Lord can work in our lives. IN the end, this is maybe perhaps an obvious thing. But for me, I am finding that I am learning SO MUCH already about how we think and how we access the power of the Lord with a confidence and security in his will. Along with the confidence that we are ACTUALLY doing his will and not just guessing about it as we go.

5- Live like I am a South American...I know you are re-reading that last goal right now....lol....but I have noticed and discussed at length with mike about the Latino culture. They are so different then us North Americans...they are HAPPY...even despite some horrible circumstances in living conditions for a lot of them. Mike says its because when you live with less, the worldly side  of you is removed in a greater measure. I know there are some of you that might not agree with this line of thinking, but the basic thought is to be thankful for everything and live with less. Because this life is a blessing, it is the reward for good choices in the life previous to this one. So why not enjoy it and why do I need so much stuff anyway?? ( I will be posting more on this line of thinking later, my mind has just recently been exploring it and I am so excited about this para-dime shift in thinking for me!!) So I am going to dance a little more, laugh a little more and smile about life A LOT more and stop buying junk I don't need.....

There you go. pretty simple. Not too many things. Trust me there are others I know we will be working on. Mike and I are moving in order to become financially free. This is a HUGE move for us and will present its own blessings and challenges. I will still be working, so there are work goals too. But, the 5 above are the ones I want to change or focus on...